The Dynamic Relationship
Many of us are not in solid, good, fulfilling relationships. Twenty-plus years ago, I ventured into the marital relationship counseling field and have seen a ton of success with couples — I have learned a ton too. (Much of which I use within my 25-plus year relationship). I hate my husband. When love turns to hate, we’re dealing with a problem. Who suffers? Everyone. Stay tuned.
The Stop Giving It Away Movement
Stop Giving It Away is a self-advocacy movement for women, aimed at recognizing and stopping the unnecessary self-sacrifice that leaves many women feeling used, burned out, sad, resentful, angry or confused.
The Story Behind Stop Giving It Away
Stop Giving It Away started with a little girl who lost the 50-yard dash for all the wrong reasons. Women—quite naturally, and most times without even noticing it—frequently give up their wants, desires, energy, power, ideas, time and dreams, mistaking this for being caring and compassionate.
Stop Giving It Away tells the real-life stories of Giveaway Girls. They feel the pressure of real and perceived outside forces. They feel the pressure of inner forces that dwell in the scars of past hardships and trauma. They make Shadow Deals. They try to change and “fix” other people, especially guys (sometimes their kids). Giveaway Girls neglect their needs to manage and take care of people and circumstances around them.
Born of a love and compassion for the extraordinary women who are trying so hard and doing too much, Stop Giving It Away explores the cultural and societal underpinnings of what keeps women stuck. Stop Giving It Away offers an actionable, achievable set of self-care solutions for home, work, life and love.
Solutions at Work
Stop Giving It Away is a brand and book developed by Cherilynn M. Veland, MSW, LCSW, a Chicago-area psychotherapist and social worker. Stop Giving It Away is a solutions-based approach to the chronic busyness and overfunctioning to which so many women are prone. It’s the product of more than 20 years of counseling individuals, couples and families.