Too many women out there, particularly ones with codependent characteristics do not take the time to rest. To them, productivity is key. They live by a motto of “Do more, be productive, keep going, must achieve….”

Are you a modern-day Cinderella?

If you look around, it can look suspiciously like  women out there are modeling their life after one of the most famous female characters of all, Cinderella. Except the modeling is not about wearing the glass slippers and enjoying one’s self at the ball. No. Modern women are carefully disguised Cinderella workers who are steadily working in cute, trendy mom clothes or high heels and a gorgeous fitted suit.

You think you are not working as hard as Cinderella? When was the last time you took the day off because you felt a cold coming on? I am not talking about lying in bed with a box of tissues and a bag of menthol cough drops because you can’t function. That doesn’t count. Taking quality care of one’s self  means really checking in with your needs and what your body is telling you. When was the last time you stopped to enjoy your day? Or rested because it would feel good. Move slower and know that things will get accomplished.

If you are a mother, be even more patient and compassionate to yourself. I had a client who brilliantly explained that when she was without a child, she could “handle” pushing herself to the max to get things done. (Handle?) Then, when she had a baby she realized that there will never be an end to the list of things that needed to be done. Never. You can do serious damage to yourself if you are hypervigilantly attempting to achieve an unattainable goal.

Women aren’t the only ones. Men are working too hard too.

Just this weekend my husband was looking peaked (really green actually) and told me he was nauseous and weak. He grabbed his workout clothes and told me he was going to “just fight it.” Fight it? With what, the stairmaster? I explained that rest is the best thing you can do to fight illness. It took a few minutes for this to register. However, maybe he just needed someone else to say it. Finally, he went to bed  and slept for three hours. Surprise, he started feeling better.

Rest is necessary for healing.

I know my husband knows this. Maybe he just needed to hear it from someone else.

So call out to the Give Away Girls out there: It is OK to take care of yourself. Rest is a really good way to do that.

Enjoy a few minutes of peace today.

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