Love

Divorcing? Don’t Give It Away

Divorcing? Don’t give it away. Many women (and men) struggle to stay empowered during the divorce process. When the pressure is high, they give it away emotionally and financially. This can have long-term disastrous effects on their serenity for years to come. January...

Understanding Emotional Affairs

An emotional affair happens when two people develop powerful feelings for each other and develop an intimate relationship. However, the relationship isn’t consummated sexually. It is considered an “affair” because one or both parties are married or otherwise...

Closeness and Intimacy: Survey Questions

Enhance your relationship intimacy today. I stumbled upon an article in the New York Times that referenced a study showing exactly how to do it. Study participants were told to ask each other a list of questions. Asking and answering the questions generated positive...

Adra and Alf: The Giver, the Taker and Codependency

In my book, Stop Giving It Away, coming soon, I talk about my concept of detrimental caretaking (DC). Giveaway Girls are detrimental caretakers. They are self-sacrificers who find it impossible or very, very hard to speak their voices, set boundaries and say...

Relationships: When you’re not on the same page

If there is one thing I’ve learned from my personal experience and from my years of counseling individuals and couples, it’s that relationships are complicated. That’s no surprise. People are complicated. In fact, Facebook has relationship category...