About

Stop Giving It Away (SGIA) is a new self-advocacy movement for women, aimed at recognizing and stopping the unnecessary self-sacrifice and disempowering circumstances that leave many women feeling used, burned out, sad, resentful, angry or confused.

We’ve got ecourses, videos, webinars, and a specialized app we are working on that is MTT (motivational technology course). MTTs are like apps but the course interacts and coaches you daily so you Stop Giving It Away! Stay tuned and sign up for our mailing list so you can be notified when its ready.

Question to Ask Yourself:

  • Are you a people pleaser?
  • Do you sometimes feel that others can manipulate you?
  • Do you feel like you give more than you get in relationships
  • Do you feel guilty when you try to set limits of boundaries that other people don’t like?
  • Do you ever feel like someone else is running your life?
  • Where are you on the detrimental caretaking lifeline?
  • Do you want relationship advice or help?
  • Do you often give more than you get with others or at work?


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Stop Giving It Away is a brand, book, website and solutions program developed by Cherilynn M. Veland, MSW, LCSW, a Chicago-area psychotherapist and social worker. Stop Giving It Away is a solutions-based approach to the chronic busyness and overfunctioning to which so many women are prone. It’s the product of more than 20 years of counseling individuals, couples and families. The SGIA team is comprised of women from various professional backgrounds whose goal is to reach out to you and touch your life in a positive, empowering way.

THE MOVEMENT

Everybody is great at telling women to be strong. Set boundaries. Do this better and do that.

But, realistically, HOW DO THEY ACTUALLY DO IT?!!!

Every day in their actual lives?

I am no guru, but I have helped a lot of people and I love it. What I am really good at is connecting people to realistic, daily ways to make useful changes in their relationships and in their sense of self. Real life empowerment.

And I feel that by touching women, I help everybody. We are daughters, mothers, sisters, employers and employees, we are spouses, friends, and partners. By helping women, we change everyone and everything connected to them. That is powerful.

Relationship Help

Relationship Help

Help at Work

Help at Work

Self-Care and Personal Growth

Self-Care and Personal Growth

Help at Home

Help at Home

The Story Behind Stop Giving It Away

Stop Giving It Away started with a little girl who lost the 50-yard dash for all the wrong reasons. Women—quite naturally, and most times without even noticing it—frequently give up their wants, desires, energy, power, ideas, time and dreams, mistaking this for being caring and compassionate.

Stop Giving It Away tells the real-life stories of Giveaway Girls. They feel the pressure of real and perceived outside forces. They feel the pressure of inner forces that dwell in the scars of past hardships and trauma. They make Shadow Deals. They try to change and “fix” other people, especially guys (sometimes their kids). Giveaway Girls neglect their needs to manage and take care of people and circumstances around them.

Born of a love and compassion for the extraordinary women who are trying so hard and doing too much, Stop Giving It Away explores the cultural and societal underpinnings  of what keeps women stuck. Stop Giving It Away offers an actionable, achievable set of self-care solutions for home, work, life and love.

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Solutions at Work
Stop Giving It Away is a brand and book developed by Cherilynn M. Veland, MSW, LCSW, a Chicago-area psychotherapist and  social worker. Stop Giving It Away is a solutions-based approach to relationship challenges, parenting challenges, the chronic busyness and overfunctioning to which so many women are prone. It’s the product of more than 20 years of counseling individuals, couples and families.

THE AUTHOR

Cherilynn M. Veland, MSW, LCSW, has worked for more than 20 years as a psychotherapist, counselor and social worker. Cherilynn owns Solutions at Work, LLC, and for over a decade, maintained a thriving private practice known as Lincoln Park Counseling in Chicago, Illinois. She now lives in beautiful Charleston, South Carolina.

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Cherilynn shares insight during a television segment

Cherilynn devotes her work to helping women empower themselves to speak up, to change what hurts and to make healthier choices, using words, tools and, as she says, “even a little ass kicking.”

Having dealt with a wide variety of mental health issues and life challenges facing battered women and sexual assault victims, Cherilynn has worked with patients in psychiatric hospitals, in outpatient settings and in private practice. She has also provided mental health counseling and substance abuse treatment to people within corporate settings and she’s offered workshops, training seminars and crisis management services to a variety of for-profit and not-for-profit institutions.

“Through my work, I’ve learned that many of the anxieties and complexities within people’s lives relate to their making decisions based on a codependent way of thinking I call detrimental caretaking (DC for short). This behavior leads people to feel anxious, depressed and unhappy—both about themselves and about their relationships—and to experience job difficulties and an endless list of dissatisfactions.”

In May 2015, Cherilynn published her first book (Stop Giving It Away, SheWrites Press), which is a body of insight, knowledge and experience addressing the culture of self-sacrifice in the lives of women.

Through Stop Giving It Away and a range of self-help blogs, book talks and media work, Cherilynn teaches how to turn the tables on those forces that keep people stuck in unsatisfying personal and professional relationships.

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People are complicated; therefore relationships are complicated. Stop Giving It Away reframes the way we think about the decisions we make every day.

>> Purchase Stop Giving It Away at Amazon
>> Purchase Stop Giving It Away at Barnes & Noble